“No, you can’t deny women their basic rights and pretend it’s about your “religious freedom.” If you don’t like birth control, don’t use it. Religious freedom doesn’t mean you can force others to live by your own beliefs.”—
“Gossip Girl” has had a lot of couples. Some that were very popular, some that people were neutral about. They’ve never had a couple so disliked that hundreds of thousands of viewers stopped watching because of them. Until now.
I have a story to tell you. It’s a true story from my…
you know what i was thinking. I’m cerebral and i have film-like rolls of thoughts in the can of my head. Just right now attending to my pasta, i was thinking randomly upon a quote. When Chuck had told Blair with urgent conviction “The next time you forget you’re Blair Waldorf, remember i’m Chuck Bass and I love you”. why has this suddenly snapped me to attention? I don’t think i ever understood it as amply as i do now. It is the most beautiful thing about their relationship, the subliminal tendency of it all. Once in a while, a quote comes speeding at my consciousness with vibrant meaningfulness and i am brought to enlightenment.
Chuck tells Blair something so sheer and fluffy because he wanted to inspire confidence in her when she had very little in herself. He didn’t say those words to resound as a timeless bid in their relationship, but yet it has come to this. Chuck, in those words, is giving Blair a moon in the sky and a path of stars to lead her home from the darkness of the unknown back to the familiarity of her home (herself, which she seems to lose her way of quite regularly now). Blair is at the place now where’s forgotten she’s Blair Waldorf, and not only that maybe she’s forgotten who Blair Waldorf is, to begin with. It’s one thing to part from your identity but yet still remember who you used to be. It’s another thing to completely forget who you even were. But Chuck had told her years ago in so many words "The next time you forget you’re Blair Waldorf, remember i’m Chuck Bass and i love you". Let’s skip the fact that Chuck is clearly encouraging her to be strong and self-reliable while yet a number of people give him credit for doing the opposite. But my point is other than this. The fact that he knows she has the weakness to forget who she is and to runaway and lose who she is, at times, but even so he doesn’t just push her to have to face her weakness of abandonment of self because he doesn’t have the cure for it. It’s always going to be up to her to defeat it, all he can do is give her encouragement which he does. But in his position of helplessness against her automatic demons, he does the most he can with it — He supplies himself as a stable constant of familiarity so she could always recognize herself in the reflection of his love for her. his love is like an amulet that serenades intimately her soul. He makes this statement so she can be secure in the knowledge that someone is always going to keep her from running too far.
This is really what it translates to in empirical form. Chuck is saying to Blair — Yes i would like you to always be yourself, but even when you can’t be you, i’ll still be me and i’ll be here always to remind you of who you are. And you know what? I love who you are. But i love more than who you are, I love who you choose to be and who you happen to be, at times, whether it be your true self or the farthest thing from it when your life is spinning out of control and you can’t handle being Blair Waldorf. I get it. I love all the things you are when you are Blair Waldorf, but also i love all the things other than her that you happen to be in transit, as absolutely as i know how to love. And next time you forget you’re Blair Waldorf and you happen to be something else, weaker, lower, poorer, i’ll still love you and my love for you will ricochet your path back to yourself where you are the epitome of perfection in my eyes.
I don’t think anyone can really conceptualize the psychotic level of love Chuck has for Blair. for lack of better words; ineffable love.
PSPSPSPSPS: About our ship cheapened? I take it back. No matter what storyline they come up with to keep the hype angst what what whatever, our ship is forever precious. Hahaha I’ve missed you. I’ve missed your essays :(
lol. omg. you read my essays? I am so flattered. i miss my essays too but i haven’t been in that mindset. I feel like it was driving myself into blind rage agaisnt Dan. And yes it was sustained with legitimate arguments but at some point it became superficial to me, why i hate Dan so much — as if my hatred was no longer rooted in discord with his character but rather its representation in the fadom (DBfans, Safran, and the polarity in the fandom). that’s why i turned anon off. I just couldn’t justify to myself why i hated Dan so passionately anymore, even if i know my hatred for him was candid. , it felt aggrandized by the writers instigating the ship wars and the DB anons and my ask who attack me unreasonably. And i was incensed for Serena and i was paranoid that Blair would have feelings for him, but alas!. Yes, i hate him and i still hate him now but believe me if i can help not hating a character i’d rather do that. It’s very draining talking incessantly negatively of a character, even it being fictional. I would love to be able to love all the characters, like i’m naturally a positive person and hating Dan was just depleting me of good nature and disposition. So i decided to recalculate what i was doing. I tried to retrace the origin of my deep hatred and turns out some of it is because i’ve given into the ship wars and i rationalize in favor of my ship rather than arbitrarily. I still hate Dan though, but i wanna be reasonably when possible.
You know i’m glad i turned anon off. i miss writing essays but i was just going out of control just ranting all the time against Dan. I’ve decided if i’m going to write anymore essays i’ll write pro-Chair. I can love my ship without having to speak negatively of others.
Don’t get me wrong. I still loathe Dan and still don’t think he deserves Blair but rather than expending 10 paragraphs on it, i’d now rather use that to write about my love for Chair. you know.
I’m fine—but I’ve missed A LOT. (I’m glad you turned your anon ask off btw, I’m preeetty sure you’ll be bombarded by: BLAIR’S HAPPY NOW. ISN’T THAT WHAT YOUR BLOG IS ABOUT.) Hahaha
Yeah. i was getting attacked a lot by DB fans and anti-chuck people, attacking my url, my character as a person, my arguments even tho i make my argument self-substantiating. so turning anon off is the best thing for me. plus i’m not currently watching the show and i wouldn’t be able to answer the many questions they would send me. i plan to relaunch my ask but for now my sanity is top priority.
my blog is about Blair happiness and my conviction is that her happiness is with Chuck. i don’t see much to discuss on the subject tbh
omfg Anne. I can already tell you don’t recognize me. HOW DARE CHUU. loljk it’s ethu and i almost always call you annie /hurt feelz
youreallyknow said: PSPSPSPS: MY DAIR LOVES I CANNOT EXPRESS AND RELEASE (it’s slowly deteriorating tbh. Ruination of ships: GG does it best.)
OMG. TWINNY FOR LIFE. HOW ARE YOU? I WAS SAYING HOW MUCH I MISS YOU YESTERDAY WHEN I SAW THAT CHILY SCENE FROM 1X07 DURING THE VICTOR VICTROLA RE-WATCH.
I’M SORRY I DIDN’T RECOGNIZE YOU. I DIDN’T CHECK YOUR BLOG FIRST. BUT OMG. I CAN’T BELIEVE YOU’RE IN MY ASK. I KNOW THAT I DON’T SHIP DB AND I HAVEN’T BEEN WATCHING THE EPS BUT I HEARD THE WRITERS ARE DOING A HATCHET JOB ON IT TBH. WHAT CAN YOU EXPECT? THE ONLY WAY FOR SLS AND CHARACTERS TO REMAIN SAFE IS IF THE WRITERS DON’T GET THEIR HANDS ON IT. THEY ONLY KNOW HOW TO SPIN GOLD INTO MUD. I MISS SCHWARTZ AND SAVAGE TBH.
BTW. DON’T MIND THE CAPS. I’M JUST EXCITED TO HEAR FROM YOU.
None of them are saints, and that's what make their relationship interesting. people are not perfect, we make mistakes to grow up. Sometimes we hurt the people we care the most. We learn to live with other person's deffects and they learn to live with our own. Chuck understands the real Blair like no one else. Dan doesn't love her for her, because he used to hate everything about her Chuck always leaned to love.
very valid points with which i concur.
the “Dan loves me for me” thing was the biggest, dumbest shitload they’ve ever given us. srsly. what is that supposed to mean? i already explained why Dan doesn’t love Blair for her — not that he doesn’t love her, because it’s very clear that he does. Dan’s love for Blair is whole. but i don’t believe he loves the whole of her like the writers are making it seem. there is a grave discrepancy there. Like i explained, He has said it himself that he loves her in spite of her, meaning that he loves her but loving her is not intrinsic. It’s something that he has to grow to accept. And the dark side of her, he makes them opaque and boldface the sides that he likes, like he did in his book.
Chuck has always loved all of her for her. so that quote really pissed me off.
ANNIE! I joined the Victor Victrola rewatch + wwtweeting and found out you were Anne stacia! HOHO I'm still not used to tweeting things (nor how that site ~really works or how you see replies (?) or what) but I'm learning (+ it's too difficult to write with a character limit. What even.) Anyway I haven't watched the new episode but I heard the show continues to ruin all my precious AU pairings (simultaneously destroying our canon otp). Le creys
lol yes i am. But you spelt my name wrong. I enjoyed the re-watch as well.
Me either, i haven’t watched since 5x15 and i’m perfectly fine not watching the show until i can be sure my heart is not going to be stomped all over. I’m not doing it bc DB is happening. DB happening is not favorable for me but it wouldn’t bother me if the writing and characterization didn’t kill me so much. i need to remain sane, that’s all.
even though that old part of me wants them together, the other part thinks its too late. too much has happened, they've changed too much to be the chair we all loved. idk. :'( i just can't see how they can be together anymore.
well i understand you’re exhausted. we’re all drained but we didn’t fight so long to give in. WE HAVE TO SEE THIS THROUGH TO THE END
all i can say is
IN THE FACE OF TRUE LOVE….YOU DON’T JUST GIVE UP
lol. sometimes you should amuse yourself with gossip girl quotes instead of reflecting on them. laughing it off like idc. it keeps my head from exploding
I've been reading your thoughts on tonight's ep & CBD & I cant agree more with you. There is a total double standard & people are freaking out about B's actions to a degree that I dont remember people doing when C did things. I don't think B dating D really has to do with picking C or D but more that I really think she just needs time to be 21. I dont think she's been "in" love with L or C this whole season & she's not with D either, he's just different and doesn't carry the pressure of forever.
no one’s writing DB off as endgame. I don’t think they’re being presented that way either. If anything Chuck and Blair are the only ones who share this recurring theme.
I support Chuck and Blair 100% and DB couldn’t entice me in any way but people going at Blair, the way they are is completely irrational and just ridiculous. If i have claim to this fandom, i want others to represent me well and those accusations are just shameful and very dim. Erin, you and i seem to agree most of the time despite our differences in ships and characters. I hope it can remain like that even if the fandom is in crisis.
I guess the part being 21 makes sense but there are several pieces to the puzzle that we don’t know. so i really am not in a position to judge Blair rn. i can have opinions of her behavior but i cannot judge her. I just want to keep a cool composure about the whole thing if possible.
I think it’s unfair to assume that Chair fans are Chuck biased first but unfortunately people don’t make a showing of how much they support Blair and this season is not helping. I hate it. I am starting to resent it actually.
yeah. that’s what i’m saying.i don’t want to give the wrong impression that Chair fandom is one sided. Look how tonight we came together in unity for the same ship, half of which is comprised of Blair. So, I’m not saying people aren’t supportive of Blair but from my experience lately ( and my experience is limited to twitter/tumblr/tvf[not really]) they make a very poor show of it. I’m even surprised to even see people i believe are huge fans of Blair completely revolt her this season. I understand the frustration. I share it too. but i try to rationalize first and foremost and in moments of dire despair, i do get carried away. We’re all human. But i still stand by Blair whatever i say. Like i said, i believe these people are around but they have dialed their devotion couple notches down it seems. I can’t blame anyone, the writing sucks, undeniably. It’s just a matter of how masochistic are you?
ur greatness right now is overwhelming me. FINALLY someone who is a Chair fan and is fan of both Blair and Chuck, not just Chuck. I feel like people forget he had other relationships that were meaningful to him too.
i know a few people who root just as hard for Blair as they do for Chuck but you are right, from my experience it’s just a handful. Not saying that there couldn’t more people but they are definitely not showing their stripes well enough. sometimes, believe me, i feel very alone in this fandom. But i wouldn’t compromise my stance just to fit in with others. i can promise you one thing. If i write something and publish it on this blog. maybe 85% is verbose embellishment but 15 % will be straigh to the point, compact statements. And if i claim it, i believe it and i’ve sure enough thought about it.
A lot of people say they like my blog because i’m honest and i am.
i hope you're not mad, bb. i respect your opinion, but i just feel like chuck got hate for sleeping with jenny, so it only makes sense that she gets hate too. you know?
i wouldn’t be mad with you girls. you respect my opinion and i respect yours. we both want the best for Chair, maybe i’m pulling more for Blair at the moment bc she’s the one without the voice and you’re pulling more for Chuck because he’s the one getting hurt. either way, they’re both victims of bad writing. i have security in my heart that they love each other. I think if bad things happen now its’s better than to have to anticipate them in the future.
i don’t take elle or raina seriously at all. but blair was ‘moving on’ with louis, too. so they were both doing it. and everyone hated chuck after sleeping with jenny, just like everyone hates blair for sleeping with dan. i think it’s fair
i understand people for being upset with Blair for seemingly giving up on Chuck although she may be going through stuff which we do not understand. I myself am upset with her atm. I don’t approve of her actions just like i didn’t approve of Chuck sleeping with Jenny. my problem is with people calling her a “whore” and saying Chuck is too good for her now henceforth. I don’t know why Blair’s worth as a woman has to revolve around her sexual behavior when we live in an era in which women are no longer defined by their sexuality, and thank God for that. why is she being crucified and tongue whipped for behaving the way she does. She’s not foing anything illegal, or immoral. i think it’s highly regressive and hypocritical behavior especially from girls in this fandom. i just think it’s gross that people share this view about sexual conduct. I like to see women empower other women, not call them names and debase their characters. i hope we’re understood.
I agree with your last post. Chuck was serious with Eva. And I hated them at the time but when I think about it now, without being chairfan bias, they were even cute:) IMO.
i didn’t think i would be understanding of Chuck and Eva when i saw them shooting during the summer. But 4x02 was a great episode because it gave Chuck a lot of POV and i actually came to understand why Eva would mean something to him as much as she did. I’m still a chair shipper but yes i agree that Chuck really did want to be with Eva and he possibly loved her. And i think it was understandable for his character at the time. In retrospect, no i don’t mind her.
I don’t think he ever meant those things, he was just trying to replace blair, i honest to god think blair and dan are in love with eachother, so their sex is going to be way more meaningful. chuck was pretending those girls were blair
well you’re not being fair to Blair as well. Chuck and Eva were pretty srs. No i believe he truly wanted to move on with her. He was trying to get over Blair for good because he thought he could never repair what he did. as well as Elle idk wtf that was. I’ll skip Raina. i’d exhaust too much energy
I'm not saying Chuck is a saint, but Blair is acting so OOC nowadays... she's really changed, but i don't think it was a good change, you know ? It's like she's slowly forgetting who she really is.
but you said that Chuck should never let his penis touch her abominable body because she slept with Dan and that has rendered her so incompetent for Chuck
Chuck, demi-god as he may be is not one to hold things agaisnt Blair in that department. he’s committed criminal things agaisnt Blair. I love Chuck and i rationalize for him. I love Blair and i’m trying to do the same rn. But Chair fandom raging at Blair because of her sexual conducts just disheartens me because we don’t do that with the boys but with the girls we’re so quick to make them pay the consequences. What is this mentality? i want us to get rid of it.
I don’t want you to feel like i’m attacking you but what you posted really disturbed me. I hope you understand where i’m coming from.
Maybe Blair is forgetting who she is. How does that translate to her not being good enough for Chuck because she sleeps with Dan?
How. help me understand because for the love of God, i cannot.
but bb, he never cared about any of those girls. blair's in love with dan, it's different.
Raina: nothing is sacred to you
Chuck: you are sacred to me
don’t get me started on Elle. ~Le’ts run away together to Brazil and set up a life there together. i’ll abondon everything for you ‘most beautiful women i’ve ever seen’ even if i don’t even know you and even if 3 episodes ago Blair was telling me she loved me and rescusing me from a rooftop and saying~
"don’t you understand, i’ll always be there. Whatever you want to do to yourself please don’t do that to me. I couldn’t bear it"
ENOUGH. it’s enough.
things are not sunny rn for CB but Blair is not Medusa.
I want to be fair even if it hurts.
And i’m not even gonna mention Eva
"you’re just jealous someone finally changed me and it wasn’t you"
"how could i believe someone good could actually love me"
if i were blair, i would never let chuck put his penis in me knowing he slept with vanessa
and half of manhattan
ok Chuck slept with Vanessa. Blair’s sworn enemy. and he fucking slept with Jenny. so stop it. this is bullshit. the latter action committed by Chuck devastated Blair but she accepted Chuck afterwards because he was sorry and she loved him. I may call myself a Chair fan and you may call yourself a Chair fans but all of you guys making derogatory statements against Blair because she’s exercising her sexual freedom just makes me embarrassed for this fanbase overall. sexual freedom, which many women have fought for for centuries and 3 different waves of feminism within the 20th century alone, to be equal with men so that they don’t have to be esteemed by sexual conducts or preferences by rather but their others capacities in arenas such as intellect, humor, political aptness, leadership, macro management and so on, and not what they have to offer physically. you know why? because sexualilty shouldn’t be a measure of someone’s character, it’s a freedom. Unless it crosses a moral line such as adultery, non-consensual activities, it should never be a grade assigned to a person. Freedom means, it’s up to the person’s deliberation and it shouldn’t disadvantage them in society.. I am very disappointed in those of you who choose to debase Blair for abilitating her said freedom, when i can freely assume that most of you supporting this post are of female gender. I couldn’t more disappointed that you are putting this stigma of ‘whore’ on yourself. People have spent blood, sweat and tears for this to be a non-issue in the 21st century. I’m disturbed as well as disgusted to hear young girls such as yourselves hold that against someone. Yes, a long time ago, it used to be a stigma because women weren’t allowed to offer anything but their beauty, domesticity and sexuality. That’s why it was so important for women to preserve this virtue for their partners because it was their self-worth since they had nothing else of worth to offer. That’s why the gap between the whore and the virgin ( a kept woman) was so pronounced. sexual conduct defined women. can you imagine being defined by what you represent to someone physically rather than who you are in total? no longer does that matter because we have proven we are equal match for men in all the realms they deemed us inferior and even incapable at times.
i would never call Chuck a whore despite his sexual behavior because, sex is his freedom and i don’t think i should stigmatize him as one or the other. He doesn’t have to be a virgin (a kept man) and he doesn’t have to be a whore, he’s just Chuck, whatever that means. And Chuck has slept with hundreds of women but i’m not gonna hold that against him. I find it hypocritical that Blair is being criticized so harshly for simply experimenting. No i’m not a fan of Dan and Blair. But it’s so disappointing that she has to be judge for doing that. That’s doesn’t make her a slut and that doesn’t mean she doesn’t deserve Chuck. How is Chuck any better than Blair in the sexual behavior department? what saintly thing has Chuck done to deserve superiority to Blair. This hypocrisy is burning me. I just have a problem with women who degrade other women for exercising their well earned freedom without the consequences of judgment. When are you guys going to fair to yourself? Enough men treat you this way. Why do you want to treat yourself and other women this way? Calling Blair a slut or whatever is aslo depreciating your sexual freedom. As a girl, you’re saying you don’t deserve to have sexual freedom without consequences and that your sexual conduct defines you? this is not the 19th century. accept yourself. Be pogressive.
if you don’t like my words, feel free to reply to me. i just wanted to state my opinion because i am extremely uncomfortable with girls not acknowledging their worth as females. you were ambiguous, if you didn’t mean to call Blair a “whore”. don’t take this post personally. It pertains to what you said and i just wanted to adress my dash
I’ve never done this before; when I love a love-story, it’s usually down to gut-feelings and I never look back, giving instead a reaction cold-shoulder to any second efforts in the same arena. Sometimes I commit to first encounters too much. With the recent turns in Season 5, the mantra ‘chair is endgame’ has seemed less and less unshakably true, and besides, ‘end game’: what does that mean? In terms of OTP’s, I think it means that every movement in the story has contributed to the finality of their romance. A checkmate. A chair-mate, here. That’s rarely true in television, at least, in terms of conscientious intentionality on the part of writers – seems more often to be a process of stitching it together. So I did what any rational girl who wails watching the latest episode every Monday would do: I put my love on the line, because if Chuck and Blair really are Chuck-and-Blair, Blair-and-Chuck, it wouldn’t change a damn thing. I want to compare the love stories being told, Chair versus Dair, by being as charitable as possible in my reading of the narrative and the spin it puts on the characters involved, and answering a few possible criticisms of the respective stories in the interests of fairness. It’s going to be a doozy in length, so my apologies for that.
Cards on the table? Chair is endgame, sugar. (But maybe not in the sense of being foretold through narrative bread crumbs, maybe not in the sense that it will happen, as a prediction of the twists and turns of Gossip Girl. Only that it ought to, I think.) Which is why I won’t be sticking this into the #dair tag, but if some ‘shipper from the other side does find it, and would like to respond, I’d welcome it! Because frankly, that’s what makes it fun, yeah? We’ve all begun to treat a television program as if it had something to say about the world, as if it bears a harpoon in hand, and must be dealt with – ‘shippers don’t consume, they invest, they put their hearts into it, and that means we’ve got common (masochistic) ground. So if I’ve been unfair to the unfolding Humpdorf tale, do let me know, because my hope here is to give both sides their best shot. Same goes to my strong sisters in the chairleader section.
So I’m not that terrible optimistic myself so I’m not sure how I’ll persuade some of you to be..
I’ve said before in this post that “I’m not too bothered with what’s happening. There’s a continuous theme throughout these past five seasons with the writers. Give CB fans a Chuck and Blair overload in the first half of the season, then do something to break them apart then near the end part of the season meaning the last two three episodes bring them back together again. And there is always a kissing scene between them as well.”
I still stick by what I’ve said cause ever since last season I was prepared for this to happen and DB to have some sought of relationship. However I am to an extent annoyed that suddenly they have to make it seem as though Blair has ‘lost’ her love for Chuck. ie. she may say things that are not how she truly feels. HA we can adopt Chuck’s line of “Your eyes are doing that thing where they don’t match your mouth.” Even in those few seconds in the elevator scene of 5.15 it was evident Blair still is in love with Chuck.
CB fans shouldn’t be too disheartened, cause what would we rather have. Chuck and Blair get together now only for them to be ‘destroyed’ again by the finale, or have them finally get together for good in those finale episodes?
In an interview I believe it was JS who said that Blair will make a definite decision on which man she chooses, we’re only at episode 17 at the moment, there are still another 8 episodes for things to change course.. and they will.
In response to Martina’s post I do agree with a lot of what she said, Blair can’t realise that Chuck is the one she loves the most, makes her the most happy and the one she wants to spend the rest of her life with if she were to be in a relationship with him right now. She needs to understand this on her own.
One of the more important aspects she needs to become fully aware of is that Chuck loves everything about her. A season ago she told Cyrus that Chuck only loves her dark parts, Blair must know that Chuck loves the happier parts as well. That Chuck is the one who accepts her for who she truly is. Chuck loves that she is: smart, fierce, beautiful, independent, strong willed, determined and witty. But also realises she is broken, in need of someone to believe in her and support her, accepts that she strives for what she wants no matter what, accepts she keeps secrets and may hurt the people around her, that she loves to scheme and be a part of take downs, loves burlesque and finally that she is the most powerful woman he knows.
At the start of the season she even told Chuck that she didn’t think that being a father ect was part of the lifestyle he wanted. In a way I hope at the end of the season this is reversed whereby she now comprehends that Chuck is the one she chooses. Blair did want to have him be part of her family in 5.10 (then the crash happened) however by the finale I hope they’ll be on their way to starting their own family together.
In the previous season Chuck was the one who decided the outcome of their relationship he told her to go and be happy with the Prince even though Blair wanted to be in a relationship with him. Hopefully near the end of this season Blair will choose to be with him and nothing else will come in their way.
Blair might be saying/acting in ways that we may be ‘disappointed/upset’ with, however similar words were professed by Chuck last season, and we managed to forgive and understand why he said that so I guess we must try to do the same for Blair now. As a consequence of how the previous episodes went, I feel this is why Blair’s actions/words have up setted me more. Still I don’t deem we should hate on her.
At the end of season 3 even end of season 2 Blair and Chuck both followed their hearts because they knew they are meant for each other. Blair told Chuck in 3.22 ‘I followed my heart because I love you.’ in 2.25 ‘Everywhere I went you caught up with me.’ Thus this season with Blair I hope something similar happens.
One review it seems as though things aren’t going well for Chuck and Blair however we as fans must really take upon the idea of ‘In the face of true love you don’t just give up.’ and ‘You don’t give up on the people you love.’ CB have spent the past five seasons confessing their love to each other, and wanting and telling the other how they are the ones they want to spend the rest of their lives with.
“Now, I certainly can’t fault Humphrey for falling in love with you, Blair. You are perfect, in every way. You know that. The question is, what version of you does Dan love? Does he love the woman I helped to become the perfect prom queen? The one who helped me build my empire,…