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signaturescarf said: “fairy tale, allowed by the luxury of grand gestures but still a real and solid relationship” is exactly what I mean when she can have both :) I’m too lazy to write posts longer than the reply limit but we come mostly to the same conclusion :)
lol i was in the middle of tweeting something about how lazy i am and i read your post about how lazy you are. we’ve come to the same conclusion..we always come to the same conclusions tho after a while.
signaturescarf said: Yup. I just don’t think Blair completely gave up then cause later on she does it again w/ Marcus & Louis. Blair just has both sides warring inside her & IMO it doesn’t have to be either-or: relishing vs relinquishing control; fairytale vs non.
however. doesn’t that whole fairytale idea come full circle. it’s thematically recurred throughout s4 and at the end of it, it turns out her life with Chuck would be a fairy tale after all when Serena said “I always thought your prince was here in Manhattan with his empire” or something to that effect. so Despite Blair not ending up with her Knight in shining Armani, she does get a different fairy tale ending, not the one in the books, a brand new one she didn’t know existed. but truthfully it’s a fairy tale if you want it to be. we make our own fairy tales. right? It reminds of 2x24 when Blair said “fairy tales end and they do for a reason” and that’s true because fairy tales are usually what you think you want before you find out what you really want, which is pleasant reality. because dreams can be so grandiose, they lack practicality. i think that’s exactly what she and Chuck needs., the pretense of a fairy tale, permitted by the luxury of grand gestures but still a real and solid relationship. because , truthfully, i guess Blair has always kept a light grasp on her penchant for fairy tales. it’s kinda who she is so i understand why she loves it so much. And Chuck understands that about her and honors it respectively.
baby-goose said: Idek I wish I had a tv… I guess I’ll just sit here in Ohio and not be bothered.
Ohio is too far central for you to really be worried i guess. but i don’t plan on leaving the house either. usually on saturday i go to my dad’s house but then, with the way the are cautioning everybody on the news makes me just want to stay home and i will. Manhattan is an island afterall
iheartcrawford said: YOU SHOULD! I’m scared for everybody… Be safe, Anne :(
i’m not really scared as i’ll be indoors. i am being cautious. and it’s not like people won’t be outside tomorrow. I think we have pretty good disaster prevention team working here. i’m just hoping for the best. thanks tho A
signaturescarf said: Well put, both of you! I just like to say I don’t think Blair gave up on her dream when she went from Nate to Chuck in 1.07, more like realizing there’s More Out There, something Victrola influenced. Also why I get her royal bfs: Always Dream Bigger.
well true. i do think that she had to relinquish that dream and redefine what she wanted in a relationship. the reason i say that it’s a sacrifice she had to make is because Blair had this idea of the life she wanted with Nate, in which she felt secure because she had already laid down the blueprint of its fruition. I think that it must have been a conflict for her to even acknowledge that her plan was failing and that her life would take another course out of her control, and even more gutting for her to be ok with it all. I take her telling Chuck that she loved him as an admittance of that, as a surrender of her control over her life in favor of her heart’s desire. that’s what it meant that she loves him. It was something she couldn’t control. although i guess it can also be seen as a step of growth, her realizing that there’s more out there. However Blair is usually set in her ways. she usually knows what she wants and how to command its meticulous execution to her wish. so i think it must have been an internal war for Blair to accept that she loves Chuck and to verbally admit it to him "losing my virginity to Chuck Bass. none of my friends will ever understand". and also a personal sacrifice of her precious ‘control’. she had everything to lose, then.
Derena remains an open book these days, but if the series is indeed in the “home stretch” as Badgley put it, that may accelerate some of these lingering storylines.
i dont like that he says home stretch since the writers have been so pathetic and wasted 2 seasons worth of space it makes me want to vomit .. its ridiculous.
you are completely right
the writers killed a lot of Derena potential the moment the broke them apart in season 1. Derena was my epic ship in s1. i believe it. i believed in it. I never understood how Dan said ” I am the most understanding person in the world” and right there and then broke up with Serena. I know they needed sorta that cliffhanger for season 2 but it was criminal that they would carry out this commision at the expense of what they built.
ugh i hate the writers. idek why i ship Derena anymore. out of habit, logically because i know too firmly what they were in s1 and i refuse to accept that they can’t be like that once again. but truthfully idek if they can be. idek if they love each other the same. Nothing agaisnt Serenate really, but i never cared for their fated twisted love. Derena was much simpler and hardly ‘written in the stars’ but it was a great love, a great story. Derena did not have the surrealist intrigue that Serenate had, nor the genetic cataclysm, maybe they’d have average looking kids, but so what. Derena was much more substantial and that’s why it appeals more. there’s something concrete about it. there were layers and dimensions. I think Dan opened a whole new world to Serena. and Serena has things to offer in her relationship with Dan that are truthfully null in her relationship with Nate given that he is exactly the male version of her. i don’t see what Nate has to offer Serena either.
so yeah i agree. i don’t know why we wasted 2 years. i’m not saying that Dan and Serena shouldn’t have ventured into other relationships. their venturing out was essential to affirming that each is truly who the other wants to be with. However, the writers should have kept a adhesive link between the two throughout the seasons instead of neglecting their relationship and making them act like brothers and sisters and sometimes even strangers with each other
Scarter may be my otp but i have settled with Derena knowing that it’s very unlikely that Sebastian Stan will resume his role on that show and actually have a significant arc with Serena. I think Carter is perfect for Serena. However, once upon a time, Dan used to be that guy. the writers have deviated his character into a liar, hypocrite, meddler, too judgmental for my tolerance, and because of that Derena has been wasted. Idk how they can bring them back together to how they were in s1. it’s really sad to think about.
I have to find it again - it's lost somewhere in my posts. But no I don't have the desire for Blair to hurt Chuck as much as he has hurt her. I don't believe that would solve their issues. And most of their issues come from Chuck's family issues which also bothers me - 4 seasons of Chuck's daddy issues and then they just get resolved so easily and never mentioned again until the writers decide they want to utilize them AGAIN for drama. And 4x22 seemed to erase those issues for them so we'll have to see what the writers goals with Chuck and Blair are this season. I wonder if Chuck will spiral out of control again this season(regession) or if they are are going to evolve Chuck and keep him on this path.
As much as I love Blair for being there for Chuck, I also believe Chuck needs to deal with his own family issues on his own and that the dependence on Blair isn't healthy. As someone said, only they can fix themselves as much as I do believe they have an influence over each other but if they're going to be able to stay together then they're going to have to be healthy mind sets independent of each other.
very well put Dani
very well put Dani. idk how long this was in my ask and i don’t even know if my half-ass answer makes any sense.
tbh, i do understand where you’re coming from. the attention paid and accentuation appropriated to Chuck’s issues compared to Blair is highly disproportional for such an evened out pairing of which both individuals are equally important, to the proper development of their arc and therefore for an equal opportunity Chair shipper such as myself, i find it outstandingly dispiriting. I don’t enjoy the asymmetry of that dynamic. I enjoy that Blair is an adoring girlfriend and would go to lengths for Chuck as an explicit illustration of her love and dedication to him and i will acknowledge also Chuck would do a number of things for Blair. However i draw the line where literal self sacrifice comes into question (3x17) (no need to rehash the details and opinions on this one). Even before Blair and Chuck came into a relationship, Blair had sacrificed a lot to be with Chuck, she had to relinquish her dream of a fairy tale life with Nate, her quasi Prince Charming ( not necessarily Nate but more so the idea he represented), a dream which she had concocted up for years and that had become immensely sentimental to her. Chuck would never be like Nate, the perfect boyfriend she envisioned for herself, so to accept that she loved Chuck and desire to be in a relationship with him meant to give up on her dream. and it would also mean that she could no longer control how things were going to turn out and certainly that was a big leap for Blair, out of love, to let her heart make that decision. We know how she loves the control and feels vulnerable without it.
In less abstract ways she did sacrifice other things to be with Chuck such a her pristine reputation, evidently in 2x14, when she chose to go save Chuck instead of feigning an act to impress the ladies of the Colony Club and the same thing happened in 4x09 with Girls.INC, which kinda felt like the writers were subtly acknowledging and admitting the double standard in the CB relationship given that Blair always gets the short end of the stick when it comes fairness in relationship. She’s usually the one who loses in the end. Being with Chuck hasn’t been a plain easy choice for her, somethings had gotta give. and on top of having to make these sacrifices, Blair has been such an emotional support for Chuck throughout the years. at his darkest hours Blair has presented herself as an unwavering fort for him without question or judgement. so looking at their journey, it look like Blair has been the one who’s been there for Chuck more than enough times. from that angle, it reinforces the Beauty and the Beast dynamic ( making it look like Chuck isn’t there for Blair as warrant that he doesn’t know how to handle feelings and making Blair seem like she’s ok with that as evidence that she is just a weakling romantic enthusiast, sucker for love). I think it’s punishing to both their characters and not just Chuck’s for being vilified. Blair, here, wantonly, is being victimized.
and also the writers lingering on Chuck issues make them seem like they are more important than Blair’s, which is the root of my grievance. I never want them to drive her Bulimia as a main sl or anything. that would be counterproductive considering how far into her recovery she’s gotten and i’m proud of her for getting this far. but i wanted it to be addressed realistically and with the weight of importance it deserves, and not just a sidenot in Blair’s main arc. Because, it really isn’t as true as it appears. Chuck’s issues are not more important than Blair’s and Chuck is not some cold unfeeling person who doesn’t know how to be there for Blair. if early s3 is indication of anything is that Chuck is capable of being that person for Blair and he certainly was at the time. I thought it was out of character how smoothly he adapted to the role of ‘perfect boyfriend’ at the start of s3, and i certainly wondered when he would reach a point where his relationship would conflict with his personal issues because it was inevitable that it would come to that point. Choosing to be in a relationship with Blair was a decision and verily it has consequences for Chuck. True enough, that point came 1st at 3x12. therefore we all know Chuck’s issues hasn’t gone away just because he is with Blair. He may be happily in love with Blair but that doesn’t mean he won’t still have to deal with the deep wounds of abandonment and yearning for acceptance from his father that have scarred him for 20 years. The important thing is that he can find a resolution with his conflict and be able to move on from it. that doesn’t mean it goes away. something like that never goes away. so no, i would never say that. i would never assume that Chuck’s issues with his father were completely dealt with. these issues have been ghosting behind him his entire life. a year of self reevaluation and penitence (as of s4) would not obliterate these issues. he’s probably going to have to deal with them for a long time coming and they will always be part of who he is. however i don’t think necessarily they’re going to dominate his life like they have in the past. what i mean when i say i want Chuck to be in a healthy place is not that his issues would magically vanish and be forgotten about. It’s that i don’t want his issues to overpower his life because truthfully they don’t have to. it’s very painful to go through something like that and you can’t just set it aside and not deal with it. Chuck needed to cope with this so i’m happy that it’s happening even if it takes all of 4 seasons to do so. Yes, i am upset that Blair did not get as big an emotional arc, but now looking forward, Chuck will be a better person because of it. I hope everything he went through this season has led him to a resolution in his relationship with his father. I honestly believe that we have seen the last of his rock bottoms. we can all agree, there has been enough of them. emo chuck makes me sad so i’ll be glad if we can put the lid on that.
and also, i agree with your point about them being happy on their own. You can understand that it’s prominently why i ship Blair/Happiness. The only true way to be happy with each other is only if they happy with themselves and they can radiate that happiness externally in their mutual nurture of their relationship, which will be a healthy one, as long as the two contributing halves are quintessentially resolved with themselves. and i believe that one day Chuck and Blair will be that. i see the progress they’ve made in that direction.
the only thing really is, i’d like to see Chuck be there for Blair during one of her hard times. I think the writers need to show that Chuck is that capable. I know it because i have seen glimpses of it in the behavior he’s exhibited in previous seasons however i would like something more emotional to bring them together. I think Chair fans will no longer have to explain the potential they see in Chuck and Blair. I think their emotional connection they will convey will transcend any sequence of words any of us can put together in their favor.
i know i’m two weeks late. but i finally saw them today because i only got home this morning. these bloopers are unbelievable. the chemistry i keep talking about is actually the most evident between Ed and Leighton. I mean i don’t think they can help being so comfortable and playful with each other. it comes naturally and it’s much fun as they seem to be having. one of the cutest moments was when Ed told her “i am fucking in love with you” and she was like “He’s British…”. That girl is so beautiful i cannot even with her. and Ed has those deep brown eyes. idek anymore. Leighted will be the death of me, i swear. so anyways besides that. i like when Ed was stuttering saying, Blair…Chair…. I liked when Penn and Leighton were both lunging to grab the stapler and he almost called her Leighton. Again, that girl is so beautiful that every second i see her, i give up a little bit on life. lol. jk. but idk how it happens everyday i love her more.
the scenes between Leighton and Blake were so precious. they’re obviously gay for each other. obvious-fucking-ly and reasonably so because look at them. two incredibly gorgeous girls with this much breathing room in between. On a serious note however, i think seeing the way they act in between scenes even in season 4 just warms my heart. they may not hang out much off set because they work together all day but i do honestly believe that they are genuinely cool with each other. maybe with all this teasing in s5 they will finally kiss. Bleighton has been my OTP since forever and with the possibility of them becoming more plausible with what i gathered from the bloopers. i have renewed faith in humanity.
Leighton and Ed part 2 was so magnetizing i could hear the sound of panties dropping everywhere. i had never seen Ed and Leighton so unguarded with each other. when he was kissing her shoulder 4x09 and also when Leighton was making the funny noises in 4x08. I thought it was amazing. i’m sure they enjoy it. obviously it begs the question of their level of interest in each other, but i think they’re just awesome friends. and with the recent revelation that Leighton is the person Ed would most confide in. i think this clip makes it clear that they are that laid back into their relationship. I wonder if they really see their acting with each other as ‘work’. it seems like they enjoy it a bit much more than work. they both have awesome corresponding senses of humor. i wish there were more bloopers of them. i could spend all day watching them.
no they’re not tagged - Pls tag them when u get the chance bcs it's great to be able to read through them at once and access them all easily . i love ur answers. Mel
well. idk. Mel. i can try to do that because i am kinda ocd about being organized although i enjoy a bit of methodical chaos. but for you i will attempt tagging my responses. hopefully i have the patience for it.
wow, you must be rly smart, styversant and lfny are amazing schools!
objectively, i’m academic and i apply myself well enough to be proficient in what i do. idk if that makes me ‘really smart’. i never really thought school was really hard except for college math, anything beyond calc, is frustrating to me.
i guess. it’s not open to the public. i kept wondering when the tickets would be available for sale for they never announced it. so i just kept writing to Leighton on twitter asking about the show and my friend told me that. CheckInTheDark posted it on fb or something that the show is going to be private.
well eventually i know they’re going to have a show in NYC for all the fans. i was just hoping it wouldn’t take that long. i just don’t want it to conflict with my school schedule.
i’d like to do that but i have so many thoughts that i need people to ask me very specific things for me articulate them with due attention
OKAY THEN! well get ready for an onslaught of my v specific, random thoughts from now on on his blog bcs i like hearing urs! haha.
well then hit me with your best shot
btw this is the last question i’m answering for rn
do u make gg gifs? i posted some qs i'm guessing u still have them in your inbox from yest?
yes i’m sorry i have many questions in my ask that i haven’t answered. i’m not ignoring you but i’ve not been able to come online lately. all the srs bsns questions about gossip girl. they will require a little more effort so i’ll answer them when i get home, in my environment. able to think. sorry i’m taking so long.
lol. no. i just followed you just now. like 5 mins ago when i came online. but the link you sent me is a white page. i can’t see it. if i don’t see this video in the next ten minutes, i may spontaneously combust.
baby-goose said: omg the el bloopers are so good! There’s the 4x09 (I think maybe 4x08) scene with chair in her bed when he says ily and leight’s like so into she didn’t hear them say action lmao (btw this is kathryn/westwick… new account)
lol. yeah i saw you followed me and i instantly recognized the url. know it was you. i folowed back. I need to watch these bloopers rn. omg i just saw Laura’s gif. omg. is he really doing that to her. somebody link me a non youtube link. pls.